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Paulo Coelho, in his blog has sought Your Opinion

Forgiving & Forgetting
Paulo Coelho’s preface
When people hurt you: do you forgive and forget? Or do you just forgive but don’t forget?
People who tend to be seen as good – usually forgive and forget. But I don’t think that this is a question of being good or evil – I think the point is about being just. So maybe the tendency to forgive and forget those that have hurt us is not necessarily a good thing. Because if we don’t do anything to people that hurt us – they will probably continue on hurting others.

My take:
Though, most philosophies recommend forgiving and forgetting, I have my reservations.

Situation: Intentionally Hurt.
Response: No efforts are made to mend them nor do I make an attempt to teach them a lesson. I don’t forget it.
Rationale:
I am not sure about accepting the rationally of being just. It’s an emotional issue. One cannot tread the judgmental path discreetly. Actually, one should not make an attempt to deliver justice.
Initially, I believe in Karma – his and mine.
Secondly, I don’t laugh and accept it, since he or she needs to know that I have been hurt and he needs to be conscious. It also alerts me.
Finally, if he is a habitual offender, I try being away – maintaining a safe distance, sometimes to the extent of cutting communication as I believe, this guy has inherent negative energy, there is no point in guessing, confer through counseling etc. Accept but don’t be foolish to get hurt again by forgetting.

You have a strong opinion? We would like to hear from you.

Take care,

Sharad